Child custody matters are often challenging for the parents, but it is imperative that they always make decisions that are in the best interests of the children.
By remembering how things can impact your kids, you can make the decisions you feel are necessary. Consider these points as you are working with your ex and handling situations with your children.
Be forgiving and helpful
There are going to be challenges throughout your child’s life. Once you remember that your child’s well-being is the most important thing to focus on, you will find that other aspects of the situation are easier to handle. It doesn’t really matter who’s at fault when it has to do with your children. Be willing to forgive your ex if they are at fault, and try to help your child to cope with the situation and address things as necessary.
Your words are a powerful tool that can help your child, but you have to ensure that you are choosing to share positivity. Be especially careful when you are speaking of your ex. You shouldn’t speak negatively of them because the children will take your words to heart. If there are disagreements with your ex, make sure that you handle these away from the kids.
Set clear guidelines for the kids
Never try to use overindulgence as a way to share positivity. From the start of the divorce, set the rules and make them clear. Letting your child get away with things you wouldn’t normally allow can make the transition more difficult. If possible, you and your ex can decide on some of the major rules as a team so that the child won’t have to adjust to major rule changes at each home.
Handle difficult decisions
It is tempting for some parents to allow the children to decide with whom they want to live. This usually isn’t a good idea because it can make the children think they have to choose one parent over the other. Instead, you and your ex must make these decisions for the children when you create the parenting plan.
A parenting plan is something that is usually fairly fluid as the children grow and mature. Set the parenting plan for what your children need right now. You can always work with your ex to modify the plan as necessary.